Thinking that she would be happy in her second youth after 30 years of marriage, Violetta faced an unexpected divorce. Only optimism helped her regain her happiness.
“I thought long and hard about writing to you, I didn’t have the courage and was ashamed, but now I’ve resigned.
I had a happy marriage.
My husband was perfect, he was thoughtful… Our kids finished school, got married and we made plans to rekindle our teenage romance. We wanted to build a house in the mountains where we could retire in old age.
One day two years ago while watching TV my husband said he wanted us to talk.
I really had no idea it would bring me such bad news. He calmly told me that he was in love. He calmly told me how their relationship existed for some time, that the girl was a student and he wanted to move in with her.
Luckily I was sitting comfortably in a chair. I didn’t even have the strength to ask him for further explanations, to blame him or to ask questions. I only managed to tremble through my tears, “Okay, but what about me?”
The sad story of a woman facing an unexpected divorce
The next day he packed his bags and left. I was concerned, but I couldn’t even blame the young lady he had in mind. My only regret is that I didn’t feel like changing him and blamed myself for letting him go. I soon received a divorce summons. I have suffered a lot. The kids accused me of just letting him go. But I thought there was no point in fighting for him.
I knew he would regret the move at some point. And I started a new life. I didn’t want to find anyone else to fill the void in my soul, but peace. I went on trips, I made new acquaintances, and strengthened my ties with the older ones. I really felt very good in his absence.
After a long period in which no one knew anything about him, her husband returned home in peace. I felt sorry for him. He looked bad and was sick. He wanted us to make peace. Only then did I feel hurt, that he took me as a “bad weather cloak” and I realized how much he made me suffer. With a smile on his face and the same calmness with which he announced to me that he was in love, I invited him to leave my house. I told him that his place was next to the girl he loved so much and for whom he left his family without explanation.
He is no longer with her, lives alone, and is still trying to reconcile through the children.
But I take care of my life, I enjoy every moment spent with my grandchildren and, even if I have a best friend, I would never marry for anything in the world. Because life is worth enjoying, living beautifully, decently, quietly, even at 55 years old. ”
